Best Self Help Books For Men

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We all know how difficult it is to get some men to do things like going to the doctor, admitting a mistake or…gasp…read a Self Help book!  I know this is a generalization, but just as women are known to be more intuitive, some men just don’t want to admit or show weakness by browsing the self-help section.  But the truth is that making those first steps at improving ourselves is a great sign of strength and an improvement in itself.

A wonderful list of the ‘Best Self Help Books For Men’ was compiled by self improvement website Upjourney and my choices along with my book, Toxic Rainbows was included on the truly inspired list.

From my review:

Lucio focuses on issues that both deceive and weigh heavily on men, perception and the expectations imposed on them by others.

The book takes on a philosophical and sociological approach steeped in reason in order to grasp, then overcome our self-imposed failings. Men may appreciate the no-exit approach to this self-help book and be eager for the challenge.

The book also gives a welcome opportunity for men to see how their hidden talents have been obscured and offers an opening to pursue their dreams in a fresh and energetic way that leaves little room for negative influence.

Connecting with what the author calls Creative Self Expression, the individual is then in a position to answer hard questions like, “What is my purpose?” and to finally understand how he controls the meaning and rewards offered in his life.

Check out the entire list here.

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Intolerance is Hot Right Now

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There’s a person I know, someone who I’ve admired for years–creative, passionate about life, engaging, fun, a joy.  But then I realized that nearly every moment she shares on social media has been of outrage and venomous hatred. It’s gone so far that she has even called for the death of people she does not agree with.

I’ve made a point of staying away from the mind-controlling echo chamber of thee main culprit of social media conditioning, an entity whose name I won’t mention, but the ferocity and number of people who’ve been effected by the programming seeps through nonetheless.

It’s this reactionary behavior and single-minded focus of what troubles some of us that was an inspiration for writing my book Toxic Rainbows. I found myself asking myself, How can I help? What can I do? How can I reach someone without triggering them or being shouted over? Writing the book was no different than writing a letter to someone in the hopes that you could express all of your thoughts and feelings without getting  interrupted. Now our hope is that the letters we write are read!

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There are factors at work that are creating a much more polarized atmosphere than we would be experiencing if things played out naturally, without influences hammering away at us. Polarity exists, it’s never not been part of the world in which we live. There are things that occur, beliefs that people have and even fashion or styles that is just ‘not you’. But when we give our focus to what it is we don’t want in our lives or what we don’t believe in, we are actually empowering what we push against.

If you hate facial hair, nose rings or red hats, chances are you see those things ALL THE TIME and bring them more into your experience than if you would have just put your attention elsewhere.

But our problems right now lie, a bit outside of our polar differences in belief. It’s in our UNDERSTANDING and how we came to believe what we do.  Our intolerance and inability to reason did not just happen overnight. It has been a long, slow development that has been inflicted upon us.  We need to understand ourselves, not what outside influences tell us about who we are because if we don’t watch out, we will suddenly be telling our friends that we wish they’d die.

If these ideas resonate, I encourage you to read my book, Toxic Rainbows. I also encourage dialogue and questions.

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Glitch In The Matrix

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For months I have been quietly taking self-portraits in grocery stores and places familiar to all of us as a way to convey this idea of separation from nature and our increasing reliance on the artificial and our melding into this unnatural setting that surrounds us.

The photos have become a greater expression of the points I made in my first book, Toxic Rainbows. I dwell on questions of purpose, will and reason and seek to understand my place in this increasingly artificial world where the digital encroaches on nature.

More photos and info about this project under the tab “Photos From The Matrix”.

Is Halloween the Only Day for Honesty?

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Today is Halloween and it occurred to me that it is the one day where people honestly present themselves as something that they are not. Take a second to grasp this.  The rest of the year, we present ourselves how we want other people to perceive us. It’s really a costume party all year long with October 31st as the day designated where we can admit we’re in costume.

We style ourselves to speak for us. We dye our hair in ‘progressive’ colors so that it creates a perception. We wear red hats to let people know we are just like they are. We cover our faces at protests so other like-minded citizens can fall-in with us.  We wear goth finery and symbolic jewelry to clue in other occultists… I could go on.

Think of how much time we spend presenting an idea of who we are, all the while avoiding the real work of discovering who that person is for ourselves. In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I repeat over and over how important honesty is in self-transformation.  It’s one of the hardest things we face in life. We know that uncovering and addressing hidden pains and roadblocks is one of the most painful things we can do, thus making it one of the easiest things to avoid.

Now is the time to face your truth. Wipe the make-up off your face, quit looking for your ‘perfect angle’ and understand that the real you is not something that is there for everyone to gawk at. When you discover that inner spark, and many of you know what I’m talking about, you will know that my words are true and that what matters is understaning yourself which will lead to your PURPOSE.

Let’s take this day and commit to honesty and to digging deeper within ourselves to discover what truth really is.

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Embrace Your Inner Dodo Bird

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I often think about identity, persona and how we see ourselves. In my book Toxic Rainbows, I talk about how I felt early on that I was different, not the fact that I was a minority, but that my thinking was not quite the same as most and I saw that the brilliance in our differences and how standing out from the crowd was not a bad thing. But accepting our uniqueness is sometimes a hard thing to appreciate in a world where people are bullied and shamed for being true to themselves or even ridiculed for their physical differences.

Like most people, I suffered through bouts of insecurity and anxiety, much of which was rooted to my feelings of not having the ‘right’ experiences or background. I learned that pressures imposed by society can make us forget who we are and literally obliterate the love that we should have for ourselves.

We do ourselves a huge disservice when we allow ourselves to become victims to the cruelties of the deeply insecure people out there who try to make us look bad or to feel bad about ourselves.

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Years ago I was asked the oft asked question, “What is your spirit animal?” I responded immediately, ‘The Ostrich”.

The ostrich is awkward and can’t fly, but it runs incredibly fast. It’s legs are powerful and can kick the crap out of the haters. It’s feathers may be useless for flight, but they are beautiful and luxurious. The ostrich stands out on its own as being remarkably unique in the bird family and as an animal in general and like all creatures, it succeeds purely on being itself.

Birds of Envy. If we were to embrace our inner ostrich, dodo bird or platypus, we would be positioning ourselves as strong, untouchable individuals. I don’t mean that you should go out and dye your hair blue, because that doesn’t cut it anymore. I mean..BE YOU. Warts and all, you are meant to shine for what you have going on in your mind and in your heart. There is no one like you and that’s something everyone can be grateful for.

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Medication as a Way of Life

I understand that there are a lot of people out there who suffer varying degrees of pain, whether it be in the form of anxiety, depression, or self-esteem. I like to remind people that we need to feel our pain and that medication is not always the thing that will get us through our problems. Yes, in the short term it may cover over the pain, but what happens when the medication wears off? Are we to quickly accept the idea of a lifetime of prescription refills?

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Obviously, our medical options and medicines are essential and they save lives every day, but on the other hand, we are made to feel and experience pain. We are built to overcome. We are made to learn and discover who we are and pain is part of that process.  I won’t even try to comprehend or connect the multitude of dots that correspond with the miseries associated with mixing medication and the side effects and abuses that meds take on the human body. It’s bad–and as miraculous as our bodies are, it can’t fight a battle where our medications are literally tricking it into behaving abnormally, creating feelings of loneliness and even suicide.

I am not a medical doctor and have no authority when it comes to prescription medicines, but I’ve noticed something disturbing when sometimes talking with clients and even friends and that is that I often feel like I’m not actually talking with the person, but with the side effects of medication.

The issue of prescription drug abuse/use and the alarming manner in which they are prescribed is disturbing to me, particularly because everything I write about, all of the exercises and manner in which I try to nudge people into taking charge of their lives is pointless if we are deadened by meds. We simply can’t discover our true selves and our true nature when our emotions and thoughts are clouded over by the effects of being overly medicated.

My suggestion is to get a second opinion and think twice about whether you think you can or cannot overcome a ‘problem’ in your life through medication. Consider holistic approaches, acupuncture, meditation, or even hypnosis. I’m don’t have kids, but I know I would try other options before setting them on a lifelong path of medicating, particularly where meds are presented as the only solution to problems that are common to every day life.

Just today in a grocery store, a voice on the loudspeaker used fear mongering to pressure shoppers into getting TWO ‘Free’ flu shots because it’s the ‘season’ and pneumonia, well…you might get it.  Is it really the ‘season’? If so, why were we pushed to get flu shots all summer long? Is anything ever really ‘free’? The fear, paranoia, and pressure blinds us to how we even really feel.  Stop, listen to yourself. Sometimes you are the real professional when it comes to yourself.

If you’d like to hear more of my thoughts and how to escape the programming and conditioning we live under, my book Toxic Rainbows is available on Amazon.

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BOOK RELEASE! Toxic Rainbows out now!

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I’m very happy to announce the release of my first book, Toxic Rainbows.

I have so many feelings and thoughts associated with what I’ve written that I struggle with even giving it an elevator pitch that does it justice.  It’s philosophical, psychological, spiritual, autobiographical–it’s a manual for gaining clarity in a world that is designed to distract and distort perception.

As I wrote, I realized that I had been keeping mental notes my whole life on what I had been learning, observing and understanding about myself and human nature. The pain and confusion I saw around me compelled me to further understand why so many were in a delusional loop of cognitive dissonance and selective outrage. What had happened?

For years I had been slowly moving toward a life of spirit and nature and attempting to understand the meaning of faith.  But when my life dramatically cracked open and I was faced with a life and death situation, everything I had questioned and wondered about was revealed to me and I was given all the answers I sought.

The awakening I experienced allowed me to see my past, future and the world around me with much more clarity and I finally understood the meaning and feelings of faith.

Toxic Rainbows is available on Amazon.

For Media Inquiries: librocioknows@gmail.com

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They Are Sooo Unhappy

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It seems that I can’t get out of the house without experiencing the pain of others.  I deleted my Facebook account last year to escape the pain and noise of the echo chamber that it is, but even walking into public, people appear beat-up and defeated.

Only yesterday I made the mistake of allowing an acquaintance’s Instagram post interfere with my thoughts and her update haunted me all day. The post was a photo of the sky, a beautiful clear, blue sky with a caption that read, “I am just about infuriated at how beautiful today is.” One more in a continuous stream of angry posts.  I had to comment, “Don’t almost be mad.”  It’s as if people require anguish in their lives and when even nature does not comply, they rebel and insist on locating that elusive misery.

 

A few hours later I ran into an old friend and somehow the subject came around to him saying, “Everyone is unhappy.”.  I didn’t know if he was being very honest or trying to make a joke, so I asked him to clarify and he said, “Yeah…everyone is unhappy including myself.” All I could think of was, “Not him too!”.

Each day gives me more purpose and makes me feel more dedicated to turning people around. Making them remember or to see through the fog of the delusion that it doesn’t have to be as miserable as they seem to be experiencing.

My book will be release in October 2018 and I’m very much looking forward for those in need to discover it and start to change their lives for the better. Let’s be done with this misery!

Look for Toxic Rainbows: Surviving and Thriving in the New Babylon on Amazon soon. Stat tuned.

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Is More Not Enough? What’s Missing? – Book Excerpt

My book, TOXIC RAINBOWS will release this Fall as an ebook.  Enjoy this excerpt.

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We are living in a time of relative abundance, excess and opportunity, yet we continue to feel deprived and left wanting for more.  What is it that’s missing? Can it be satisfied by shopping, having another child, redecorating?

This empty feeling and searching for substance is brilliantly depicted in Orson Welles’ classic film Citizen Kane and was more recently explored in Ridley Scott’s All The Money In The World.  We see in these film characters a desperation to possess an unnamable something.  Similarly, we sense a feeling of lack, but don’t know where it’s coming from or know what to fill it with.

We often falsely base success and privilege on material gains.  We wrongly assume that if someone is driving an expensive car and lives in the most posh part of town that he is happy and ‘has it all’. But what we will come to better understand and what you may already know or sense is that the ‘All’ can’t be bought, yet the ‘All’ that we desire and yearn for is not unobtainable.

Accessing the ‘All’ defies status, culture and race.  The ‘All’, the thing that brings clarity, vision, and empathy is the same thing that creates fulfillment and provides the missing piece of the puzzle we are all in search of.

Different cultures and religions both ancient and contemporary have referred to this force within us and it’s concepts may not be so far removed from our understanding as we might think.

Spirit Energy. Life Force. Soul Consciousness. Quintessence.  Intuition. Whatever you want to call it and however it’s been referred to throughout the ages, it is here to stay and it’s still just as powerful as it’s ever been.

Imagine having a key that has the potential to open any door imaginable.  A key that when used eliminates negative feelings and gives meaning to your life.  The spark of spirit energy within each of us is that key.

This book is a roadmap that will illustrate how paths taken and systems of belief can lead to success and happiness or abject failure.  I’ve been on both sides.

Follow my blog and Instagram for updates on the book release.

Jim

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The Matrix Has You

MATRIXTHOUGHTS01Editing my book, Toxic Rainbows and sharing quotes and ‘Photos From The Matrix” to help illustrate some ideas.  The book will be released as an ebook this Fall. Follow here and/or Instagram for me about deprogramming and Exiting the Matrix. MATRIXTHOUGHTS02MATRIXTHOUGHTS03RAINBOWSFOOTER