Fear and Self Loathing

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Fear is the driving force that inspires most things in our lives.
Fear is so powerful that it controls almost all the things that we do and the ways in which we think. It’s incredible to imagine that something with so much power to inspire is the kryptonite that cripples us.

Fear is the thing that prevents us from knowing our truth. It allows us to cling to old ideas and beliefs in order to maintain a paradigm that does not serve us, but keeps us comfortably numb. This fear and self-denial becomes the cornerstone of a life built on misrepresentation. Avoidance by fear obscures pathways that lead to overcoming pain and suffering —the same suffering that we choose to believe doesn’t exist.

Fear is at the core of our issues relating to denial, bullying, and self-loathing. It is usually the reason why we choose blame over trying to understand why we react in the ways that we do. The subconscious reason for blame is a fear in confronting our own failings and having to admit self-deception. We desperately avoid situations that will lead to the discovery that we are the cause of our own suffering—this is the root of fear.

For more insights and pathways that lead to a greater understanding of self, look for my book Toxic Rainbows.

About the photo: The photo memes I create address topics of communication breakdown and other concepts which are deeply tied to our post-internet lives.  These and other issues are discussed at  more length in my book.  More ideas and memes can be seen on my Instagram account.

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Social Media Depression

 

ToxicRainbowsCvrSqIt’s interestng that a ‘new’ study conducted by psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania determined that use of social media sites like (and particularly) Facebook  causes …wait for it… depression.   No surprise there, but I say this is ‘interesting’ only because studies like this seem to have been coming out for years making these claiims.  I didn’t have to resort to another one to know first hand that social media is a big player in producing self doubt and loneliness, all I ever needed to do was get online and see it for myself.

The grasping, the vying for attention, the compulsive posting and commenting all screamed, “Look at me! Look at me!”.  It doesn’t take a degree in psychology to understand what is going on and to see that people are suffering and appear more alienated each day.

In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I talk quite about the detrimental effects of social media and it’s influence on our behavior. In my opinion, it is one of the first things many of us need to overcome before we can start making improvements in our lives.

My request to you as that you THINK hard about how you use social media and figure out if it’s providing you with a sense of fulfillment and joy when you log on and/or off. Contemplating your use is only the start and I encourage you to read my book and delve deeper. You owe it to yourself.

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Is Halloween the Only Day for Honesty?

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Today is Halloween and it occurred to me that it is the one day where people honestly present themselves as something that they are not. Take a second to grasp this.  The rest of the year, we present ourselves how we want other people to perceive us. It’s really a costume party all year long with October 31st as the day designated where we can admit we’re in costume.

We style ourselves to speak for us. We dye our hair in ‘progressive’ colors so that it creates a perception. We wear red hats to let people know we are just like they are. We cover our faces at protests so other like-minded citizens can fall-in with us.  We wear goth finery and symbolic jewelry to clue in other occultists… I could go on.

Think of how much time we spend presenting an idea of who we are, all the while avoiding the real work of discovering who that person is for ourselves. In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I repeat over and over how important honesty is in self-transformation.  It’s one of the hardest things we face in life. We know that uncovering and addressing hidden pains and roadblocks is one of the most painful things we can do, thus making it one of the easiest things to avoid.

Now is the time to face your truth. Wipe the make-up off your face, quit looking for your ‘perfect angle’ and understand that the real you is not something that is there for everyone to gawk at. When you discover that inner spark, and many of you know what I’m talking about, you will know that my words are true and that what matters is understaning yourself which will lead to your PURPOSE.

Let’s take this day and commit to honesty and to digging deeper within ourselves to discover what truth really is.

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Medication as a Way of Life

I understand that there are a lot of people out there who suffer varying degrees of pain, whether it be in the form of anxiety, depression, or self-esteem. I like to remind people that we need to feel our pain and that medication is not always the thing that will get us through our problems. Yes, in the short term it may cover over the pain, but what happens when the medication wears off? Are we to quickly accept the idea of a lifetime of prescription refills?

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Obviously, our medical options and medicines are essential and they save lives every day, but on the other hand, we are made to feel and experience pain. We are built to overcome. We are made to learn and discover who we are and pain is part of that process.  I won’t even try to comprehend or connect the multitude of dots that correspond with the miseries associated with mixing medication and the side effects and abuses that meds take on the human body. It’s bad–and as miraculous as our bodies are, it can’t fight a battle where our medications are literally tricking it into behaving abnormally, creating feelings of loneliness and even suicide.

I am not a medical doctor and have no authority when it comes to prescription medicines, but I’ve noticed something disturbing when sometimes talking with clients and even friends and that is that I often feel like I’m not actually talking with the person, but with the side effects of medication.

The issue of prescription drug abuse/use and the alarming manner in which they are prescribed is disturbing to me, particularly because everything I write about, all of the exercises and manner in which I try to nudge people into taking charge of their lives is pointless if we are deadened by meds. We simply can’t discover our true selves and our true nature when our emotions and thoughts are clouded over by the effects of being overly medicated.

My suggestion is to get a second opinion and think twice about whether you think you can or cannot overcome a ‘problem’ in your life through medication. Consider holistic approaches, acupuncture, meditation, or even hypnosis. I’m don’t have kids, but I know I would try other options before setting them on a lifelong path of medicating, particularly where meds are presented as the only solution to problems that are common to every day life.

Just today in a grocery store, a voice on the loudspeaker used fear mongering to pressure shoppers into getting TWO ‘Free’ flu shots because it’s the ‘season’ and pneumonia, well…you might get it.  Is it really the ‘season’? If so, why were we pushed to get flu shots all summer long? Is anything ever really ‘free’? The fear, paranoia, and pressure blinds us to how we even really feel.  Stop, listen to yourself. Sometimes you are the real professional when it comes to yourself.

If you’d like to hear more of my thoughts and how to escape the programming and conditioning we live under, my book Toxic Rainbows is available on Amazon.

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They Are Sooo Unhappy

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It seems that I can’t get out of the house without experiencing the pain of others.  I deleted my Facebook account last year to escape the pain and noise of the echo chamber that it is, but even walking into public, people appear beat-up and defeated.

Only yesterday I made the mistake of allowing an acquaintance’s Instagram post interfere with my thoughts and her update haunted me all day. The post was a photo of the sky, a beautiful clear, blue sky with a caption that read, “I am just about infuriated at how beautiful today is.” One more in a continuous stream of angry posts.  I had to comment, “Don’t almost be mad.”  It’s as if people require anguish in their lives and when even nature does not comply, they rebel and insist on locating that elusive misery.

 

A few hours later I ran into an old friend and somehow the subject came around to him saying, “Everyone is unhappy.”.  I didn’t know if he was being very honest or trying to make a joke, so I asked him to clarify and he said, “Yeah…everyone is unhappy including myself.” All I could think of was, “Not him too!”.

Each day gives me more purpose and makes me feel more dedicated to turning people around. Making them remember or to see through the fog of the delusion that it doesn’t have to be as miserable as they seem to be experiencing.

My book will be release in October 2018 and I’m very much looking forward for those in need to discover it and start to change their lives for the better. Let’s be done with this misery!

Look for Toxic Rainbows: Surviving and Thriving in the New Babylon on Amazon soon. Stat tuned.

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Suicidal Thoughts: Looking At Our Pain With Fresh Eyes

At the beginning of the year I made a prediction that I did not want to come true, but in the intervening months I saw one confirmation after the next that I was not off the mark. I predicted that there would be a major increase in suicides.

My prediction may have been partly intuitive and partly based on an awareness of a general decline in happiness and a compulsion for some to embrace low frequency behaviors and ideology. The combination of low karmic energy and repetitive programming of negativity could not end well, thus my prediction of suicide.

Today I was reminded of an acquaintance who killed himself last year. I thought of all that he had going for him and what he had to offer the world and it got me to thinking again of the many people who feel as if suicide is the answer to seemingly insurmountable problems.

In the past I have suffered from the darkest of depressions and I know the feelings attached to this type of pain.  I also know that what we keep at the forefront of our minds will express itself in our outward reality. Our pain does not have to be there.

I understand that people have different reasons for their thoughts and our experiences are radically different, but I felt compelled to do a reading that might shed some light on why some of us are thinking the way we are and what we can do to elevate ourselves from these thoughts.

If you have any questions about the reading below, please feel free to leave a question in the comment section.  If you are having suicidal thoughts, please contact someone qualified to talk with you more about it.

THE READING:

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While I was shuffling the cards I got the impression that LOVE would be a major factor in why people harm themselves.  The cards did reveal elements of love and they are strongly present, but I was surprised to be shown that the predominant factor for self-harm revolve around the superficial.

There is a feeling associated with living that could be described as ‘half empty’ and leaning toward finding what doesn’t work as opposed to what is already working.

There is a certain amount of comparisons being made in what others have and accomplished and what is desired and unfulfilled in those currently struggling with happiness.

Happiness, success and legitimacy is gauged by the amount of ‘things’ and money one has to show for themselves.  There is almost a complete lack of thought behind these conclusions and emotions are being built up over things that have no shelf life or lasting significance.

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There is an unwillingness to see the importance of mistakes and the work involved in reaching greater heights. Focus lingers on low energy attempts at success that lead to failure and increased focus on the successes of others which lead to feelings of unfairness.

Predominant thoughts surrounding lack permeate the reading.  The feelings of perceived fairness in life and the distribution of love and money appear to be dominant.

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Takeaway:
Don’t be blinded by the glittering prizes of the mundane world that speak only of superficiality. They don’t last.

Embracing the superficial is turning your back on your authenticity, which in turn will not lead to love or happiness. It will attract inauthentic people and temporary friendships.

Difficult, sometimes painful work is necessary to succeed. Without acknowledging your mistakes as steps closer to your desires, you will always remain the Fool.

The Fool is unconcerned, not because he is an actual ‘fool’, but he moves through life willing to learn from the pitfalls he encounters. He approaches life with positivity.  If he doesn’t learn valuable lessons put before him, the second time around he may actually step off the edge of the cliff–willingly or because he just never paid attention.

— Librocio Knows

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What We Can Learn From Limahl

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This just goes to show that you never know where you might find words of wisdom and powerful things to reflect on that will help your spiritual growth and transformation. It never occurred to me to turn to 80s pop star Limahl of Kajagoogoo to contemplate one of the problems crippling so many people today–prescription drug use.

Prescribing meds to ‘fix’ our problems is a pet peeve of mine, particularly since we have seen them prescribed more frequently and at younger and younger ages. It’s disturbing to think that being on meds has become as normal as taking Vitamin C.  It’s become a rite of passage and parents seem not to hesitate in starting their kids on a lifetime of pain and suffering caused by meds that inhibit the body’s natural functions.

They dull our senses, they debilitate our ability to think and reason and every single one of them provide a host of side effects that we didn’t have before we started taking the meds to begin with.

In the song Too Shy, Limahl sings,

Modern medicine falls short of your complaints, try a little harder.
Moving in circles, won’t you dilate. Ooh, Baby try.

In these lyrics Limahl teaches us that we are a bunch of whiney babies and that prescription drugs will never solve our problems. We need to try harder.

He continues by telling us that we are not learning from our problems, only going in circles as if one foot is nailed to the floor. We need to expand our thinking and reach deeper, not obscure our ability to think by the use of meds. Then he says “Ooh, Baby try.” So you know he’s sincere.

Just a bit of levity here, but it’s not that I don’t believe it or think it’s a good message. Thanks, Limahl!

[Disclaimer and urge you to consult a doctor or get a second opinion before you decide to get off your meds or before you start to take them. Give your body a fighting chance, there are enough zombies in this world.]

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Just Suffer

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SUFFERING. When I was a kid we used to say, “Suffer!” as a way of saying, “Too bad, deal with it.” I thought it was funny back then, but now it’s all too painfully real.

We NEED to experience emotional pain in order to understand what it’s like to be free from it and to overcome it. We do ourselves a disservice when we shield our children from experience and every unpleasantness. We fall deeper into a despair that we can’t begin to fathom when we choose to cover our real and imagined problems with medication, labels or a host of other distractions.

We literally need to suffer through things in order to overcome them. That’s how we get stronger and that’s how we grow. So the next time someone tells you to ‘suffer’ just say, ‘Ok, no problem.’.

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