Best Self Help Books For Men

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We all know how difficult it is to get some men to do things like going to the doctor, admitting a mistake or…gasp…read a Self Help book!  I know this is a generalization, but just as women are known to be more intuitive, some men just don’t want to admit or show weakness by browsing the self-help section.  But the truth is that making those first steps at improving ourselves is a great sign of strength and an improvement in itself.

A wonderful list of the ‘Best Self Help Books For Men’ was compiled by self improvement website Upjourney and my choices along with my book, Toxic Rainbows was included on the truly inspired list.

From my review:

Lucio focuses on issues that both deceive and weigh heavily on men, perception and the expectations imposed on them by others.

The book takes on a philosophical and sociological approach steeped in reason in order to grasp, then overcome our self-imposed failings. Men may appreciate the no-exit approach to this self-help book and be eager for the challenge.

The book also gives a welcome opportunity for men to see how their hidden talents have been obscured and offers an opening to pursue their dreams in a fresh and energetic way that leaves little room for negative influence.

Connecting with what the author calls Creative Self Expression, the individual is then in a position to answer hard questions like, “What is my purpose?” and to finally understand how he controls the meaning and rewards offered in his life.

Check out the entire list here.

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Intolerance is Hot Right Now

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There’s a person I know, someone who I’ve admired for years–creative, passionate about life, engaging, fun, a joy.  But then I realized that nearly every moment she shares on social media has been of outrage and venomous hatred. It’s gone so far that she has even called for the death of people she does not agree with.

I’ve made a point of staying away from the mind-controlling echo chamber of thee main culprit of social media conditioning, an entity whose name I won’t mention, but the ferocity and number of people who’ve been effected by the programming seeps through nonetheless.

It’s this reactionary behavior and single-minded focus of what troubles some of us that was an inspiration for writing my book Toxic Rainbows. I found myself asking myself, How can I help? What can I do? How can I reach someone without triggering them or being shouted over? Writing the book was no different than writing a letter to someone in the hopes that you could express all of your thoughts and feelings without getting  interrupted. Now our hope is that the letters we write are read!

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There are factors at work that are creating a much more polarized atmosphere than we would be experiencing if things played out naturally, without influences hammering away at us. Polarity exists, it’s never not been part of the world in which we live. There are things that occur, beliefs that people have and even fashion or styles that is just ‘not you’. But when we give our focus to what it is we don’t want in our lives or what we don’t believe in, we are actually empowering what we push against.

If you hate facial hair, nose rings or red hats, chances are you see those things ALL THE TIME and bring them more into your experience than if you would have just put your attention elsewhere.

But our problems right now lie, a bit outside of our polar differences in belief. It’s in our UNDERSTANDING and how we came to believe what we do.  Our intolerance and inability to reason did not just happen overnight. It has been a long, slow development that has been inflicted upon us.  We need to understand ourselves, not what outside influences tell us about who we are because if we don’t watch out, we will suddenly be telling our friends that we wish they’d die.

If these ideas resonate, I encourage you to read my book, Toxic Rainbows. I also encourage dialogue and questions.

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BOOK RELEASE! Toxic Rainbows out now!

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I’m very happy to announce the release of my first book, Toxic Rainbows.

I have so many feelings and thoughts associated with what I’ve written that I struggle with even giving it an elevator pitch that does it justice.  It’s philosophical, psychological, spiritual, autobiographical–it’s a manual for gaining clarity in a world that is designed to distract and distort perception.

As I wrote, I realized that I had been keeping mental notes my whole life on what I had been learning, observing and understanding about myself and human nature. The pain and confusion I saw around me compelled me to further understand why so many were in a delusional loop of cognitive dissonance and selective outrage. What had happened?

For years I had been slowly moving toward a life of spirit and nature and attempting to understand the meaning of faith.  But when my life dramatically cracked open and I was faced with a life and death situation, everything I had questioned and wondered about was revealed to me and I was given all the answers I sought.

The awakening I experienced allowed me to see my past, future and the world around me with much more clarity and I finally understood the meaning and feelings of faith.

Toxic Rainbows is available on Amazon.

For Media Inquiries: librocioknows@gmail.com

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Is More Not Enough? What’s Missing? – Book Excerpt

My book, TOXIC RAINBOWS will release this Fall as an ebook.  Enjoy this excerpt.

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We are living in a time of relative abundance, excess and opportunity, yet we continue to feel deprived and left wanting for more.  What is it that’s missing? Can it be satisfied by shopping, having another child, redecorating?

This empty feeling and searching for substance is brilliantly depicted in Orson Welles’ classic film Citizen Kane and was more recently explored in Ridley Scott’s All The Money In The World.  We see in these film characters a desperation to possess an unnamable something.  Similarly, we sense a feeling of lack, but don’t know where it’s coming from or know what to fill it with.

We often falsely base success and privilege on material gains.  We wrongly assume that if someone is driving an expensive car and lives in the most posh part of town that he is happy and ‘has it all’. But what we will come to better understand and what you may already know or sense is that the ‘All’ can’t be bought, yet the ‘All’ that we desire and yearn for is not unobtainable.

Accessing the ‘All’ defies status, culture and race.  The ‘All’, the thing that brings clarity, vision, and empathy is the same thing that creates fulfillment and provides the missing piece of the puzzle we are all in search of.

Different cultures and religions both ancient and contemporary have referred to this force within us and it’s concepts may not be so far removed from our understanding as we might think.

Spirit Energy. Life Force. Soul Consciousness. Quintessence.  Intuition. Whatever you want to call it and however it’s been referred to throughout the ages, it is here to stay and it’s still just as powerful as it’s ever been.

Imagine having a key that has the potential to open any door imaginable.  A key that when used eliminates negative feelings and gives meaning to your life.  The spark of spirit energy within each of us is that key.

This book is a roadmap that will illustrate how paths taken and systems of belief can lead to success and happiness or abject failure.  I’ve been on both sides.

Follow my blog and Instagram for updates on the book release.

Jim

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The Matrix Has You

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The Digital Generation’s Answer to Avoiding Problems

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How far do you think people will go to avoid their problems?

Transhumanism is the ultimate in ‘convenience’. It aims to make life easier, better and more efficient. Convincing the public of anything that works against their nature and  that’s detrimental to their existence or well-being has often been presented in opposite terms in order to gain trust.

Awareness to the fact that inversion is a hallmark of the Matrix, makes it easier to see that transhumanism is invasive and actually an enemy of human nature and biology. Inversion of reality aside, it used to puzzle me as to why and how so many people embraced transhumanist concepts so carelessly and thoughtlessly, accepting them without argument as if it were natural evolution or true nature.

Our brains are becoming atrophied because of services that provide us with answers offered to us by robotic voices. Commercials teach us to treat them as friends and family, blurring the line for those who, as children, considered Teddy Ruxpin a confidant and support system. One commercial goes a step further by enforcing the stupidity of humans who use the product and even demonstrates that it will refuse certain things that are asked of it, in this case, country music. We are being conditioned to feel that these services are an improvement over the human mind which is an abomination of thought and can never be true.

We use search engines to give us the answers that appeal to their algorithms all the while, our world view dwindles and we forget what it’s like to think and discover on our own. This behavior is plain to see, but it occurred to me that these devices and human-like anamatronics are not here to assist us, but to destroy our connectivity to one another. They prey on our weaknesses and fears of failure and rejection.

Our interpersonal relationships are crumbling and our modes of communication fail us. We respond to life from a weakened emotional state, our relationships falter and we distance ourselves further from eachother, connecting only through emoji-filled texts and we more easily embrace the unreality of robotics and transhumanism.

This advancement in technology encourages human failure. It allows us to go elsewhere for connectivity when we do not want to do the work involved in nurturing real relationships. It becomes the panacea to our natural anxieties, destroying human emotion in the process of ‘comforting’ us.

Who needs real people when robot sex brothels are becoming all the rage? The Barbie Doll as an ideal has led to sex dolls which begs the question, how can humans compete with something that won’t ask how you’re feeling? We will no longer have to confront our real emotions and grow spiritually. All we need is a synthetic android and a touch-screen.

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If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years, it’s that people will do almost anything to avoid dealing with their problems. Looking through that lens it is easy to see how a troubled, digital generation will accept transhumanism and live-in sex dolls if only to avoid having to face their own human responsibilities in order to continue fabricating lives deeply woven into the Matrix.

Be aware. Save your children. Exit the Matrix.

The core of my work is in awakening people to the programming and conditioning that enfeebles our minds and makes us operate purely through our subconscious and triggered emotions.  Contact me for more information.

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Earth Energy and What My Dog Taught Me

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There’s a bumber sticker on a car I see all the time that says, “Be The Person Your Dog Sees You As”. I love that because it reminds us that our pets don’t judge us and want only to love us and to experience the feeling of love in return. They are all about the win-win situation!

Our sweet Boston Terrier Chuy inspires the idea for a different bumber sticker that should read, “Be The Person That Your Dog Is”!  The word ‘dog’ has been used to denigrate people for ages, but like so many things in our world today it is a horrible inversion of truth. People shouldn’t refer to others as dogs, but if they do, they’re really only paying their enemy a compliment.  I am a better person because of my dogs and I am still learning from them.  Love, compassion, patience, natural intelligence…they have so much to teach us.

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The most recent lesson Chuy has taught and reminded me of is the importance of our connection to Earth.

I get Chuy out for a walk around the neighborhood once or twice a day and a priority for him is to find grass to roll around in. It’s something he does with passion and exudes a pure joy that I never get tired of watching. After some thought I realized that he was connecting to the healing powers of the earth. His playful  rolling went beyond having fun, I sensed that he was charging up just like we do when we ground ourselves before meditation!

This morning we went out to the park and enjoyed a great expanse of grass where he ran with joy and rolled and rolled and rolled…soaking up all that incredible energy from the earth and literally bathed in the morning dew.

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I was not one to let a good opportunity go to waste and did just as this wise pup did and  ran along side him and soaked up the potent energy of earth myself.

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We can’t forget or take for granted the gifts around us and the powers that come from the earth that heal us, ground us and get us more connected to consciousness.  It’s time to free yourself of distractions, technology, and opinions. Find a quiet place, feel the natural energies around you, connect to it. Be conscious of the fact that you are a part of this divine force. Even if it’s just a small corner in your yard, it’s time to do something. Start small, know you are connected and build on that.

As a seeker of knowledge and understanding, I’ve come a long way and it’s been a long road. In the past I have attempted opening the eyes of others through various means, but have been met only with resistence. Since then I’ve learned that change can only come when we want it to. We can get guidance and have support, but that decision can not come from arm-twisting or pressure from anyone, it has to come from ourselves.

It is a lifetime’s work, but as you walk this path, each day gives you a sense of accomplishment that the material world can not hold a candle to. It’s time to make a conscious decision to remove yourself from the things in life that work against your nature.

If you have a dog, follow their lead.  If you have questions, drop me an email.

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