Seneca, the Roman Stoic philosopher, said that all savageness or cruelty is a sign of weakness. I love this concept and it has inspired me to reflect on its truth. Our weaknesses are not confirmed when we are physically dominated by someone else. True, debilitating weakness reveals itself in those who lack empathy and intelligence. People who express empathy and intelligence threaten the feeble-minded. Intelligence inspires bullying and acts of cruelty in order for the actual weak to appear stronger than their minds would otherwise have you believe. These people oppress in order to get their way. If they are … Continue reading The Truth About Weakness
If I were not a gay man, I would be accused of homophobia for saying this, but pride is not defined as a summer month celebrating homosexuality. The media might have us believe that the only definition of ‘pride’ is purely associated with being gay and that after June we don’t need to think about it again until the following summer. But there is pride in being gay, just as there is pride in being straight, bisexual or asexual. Pride is a wonderful thing that, thankfully, is not bound to one gender or sexual orientation. Pride has gotten away from … Continue reading The Truth About Pride
I love change and have always been the one to feel excitement for anyone moving away or leaving a job, thrilled for the potential that adventurous people create in their lives. Thus, it’s no surprise that I feel some frustration when I see stagnation, lack of movement and fear of change–especially when there is complaining associated with it. One of the greatest illusions concerning change is that it is too often associated with imbalance. We sometimes think that change will throw our whole life out of whack, but the opposite is closer to the truth. Positive change (and we know … Continue reading THE TRUTH ABOUT CHANGE
Forgiveness is not for wimps and it’s not about choosing between letting go or revenge. The greatest strength of will and character is needed to forgive. On one hand it entails addressing pain caused by trusted loved ones or confidants and on the other, the violations imposed on us by low vibration people whose sole purpose is to take from others and further their own selfish agendas. Forgiveness is deeply tied to our emotional investments and physical disturbances that cause discomfort. Forgiveness does not mean having to identify with those who violate us or to allow bad behavior to keep … Continue reading The Truth About Forgiveness
THE TRUTH ABOUT SELF-DECEPTION. The difficulty with self-deception is that even if we know we are deluding ourselves it is incredibly hard to accept because the cause of much of our delusions got their start by believing in something that had been passed on to us by people we love and/or trusted–these people wear many hats. And it’s not that they all did this deliberately, but it shows how deep self-deception goes and how it can easily morph into delusion. Once we’ve accepted something as an absolute truth it creates a blockage that makes it extremely difficult to overcome and … Continue reading The Truth About Self-Deception
I’m very happy to announce the release of my first book, Toxic Rainbows. I have so many feelings and thoughts associated with what I’ve written that I struggle with even giving it an elevator pitch that does it justice. It’s philosophical, psychological, spiritual, autobiographical–it’s a manual for gaining clarity in a world that is designed to distract and distort perception. As I wrote, I realized that I had been keeping mental notes my whole life on what I had been learning, observing and understanding about myself and human nature. The pain and confusion I saw around me compelled me to … Continue reading BOOK RELEASE! Toxic Rainbows out now!
My book, TOXIC RAINBOWS will release this Fall as an ebook. Enjoy this excerpt. We are living in a time of relative abundance, excess and opportunity, yet we continue to feel deprived and left wanting for more. What is it that’s missing? Can it be satisfied by shopping, having another child, redecorating? This empty feeling and searching for substance is brilliantly depicted in Orson Welles’ classic film Citizen Kane and was more recently explored in Ridley Scott’s All The Money In The World. We see in these film characters a desperation to possess an unnamable something. Similarly, we sense a … Continue reading Is More Not Enough? What’s Missing? – Book Excerpt