Fear is the driving force that inspires most things in our lives. Fear is so powerful that it controls almost all the things that we do and the ways in which we think. It’s incredible to imagine that something with so much power to inspire is the kryptonite that cripples us.
Fear is the thing that prevents us from knowing our truth. It allows us to cling to old ideas and beliefs in order to maintain a paradigm that does not serve us, but keeps us comfortably numb. This fear and self-denial becomes the cornerstone of a life built on misrepresentation. Avoidance by fear obscures pathways that lead to overcoming pain and suffering —the same suffering that we choose to believe doesn’t exist.
Fear is at the core of our issues relating to denial, bullying, and self-loathing. It is usually the reason why we choose blame over trying to understand why we react in the ways that we do. The subconscious reason for blame is a fear in confronting our own failings and having to admit self-deception. We desperately avoid situations that will lead to the discovery that we are the cause of our own suffering—this is the root of fear.
For more insights and pathways that lead to a greater understanding of self, look for my book Toxic Rainbows.
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I like to think that most people are genuinely caring individuals who strive for fairness and encourage love of their fellow man. Deep down, I think we all want that, but sometimes it drives us to imbalance. We start to see injustice wherever we look and choose not to see when things are actually going well for us. Our good intentions of ‘righting a wrong’ by becoming angry or emotional simply creates more of the negative vibration we seek to eliminate.
Everything Vibrates. Vibrational energy works in a two-fold way. It is put out and attracts more of a similar type energy (good or bad), it builds on the expended energy and returns to the source with more than it started out with. So if you put positive out, you get more in return. This holds true with whatever type of energy expressed by either your thoughts or actions.
I did a reading yesterday that exemplified this idea.
The Reading: When we become so blinded by doing what we think is ‘right’ that we go out of our way to hurt, silence or destroy the ability for others to express themselves, we are treading in a deeply delusional space.
We celebrate and feel a sense of victory when we are with like minded participants, but the victory will not be authentic until you walk with your perceived enemy. When that is done you will both have a better understanding and respect for one another that will transcend bitterness, anger and jealousy. If we avoid confronting issues that put our belief systems in jeopardy, we will be like the Fool who had his chance at spiritual growth, but ignored the opportunity and fell to his doom.
Our short lived victories will ring hollow and in the end we will see that our emotions and denial of nature have left us with nowhere left to go. We’ve reached a dead end that can only be transformed when we go back, understand the lunacy of our behavior, take the hand of our enemy and walk together.
I’ve been writing a lot about change as it’s associated with our personal growth and there is much to be said on this subject, but for now I just wanted to drop a quick thought that occurred to me about it.
We’ve all heard about being fearless and taking risks that test our boundaries of comfort. We do things to gain strength and overcome the fear itself. But it occurred to me that the greatest fear that most people have is not something like asking someone out on a date, standing up for ourselves or merging into fast moving traffic. Our greatest fears lie in honestly confronting ourselves.
Confronting ourselves requires a dedication in wanting to make changes that we know deeply effect our thinking, reasoning and emotions. It means understanding ourselves better, it means addressing feelings and issues that may be uncomfortable and unpleasant.
We fear the secrets we keep buried deep down and if we’re honest, we know that by understanding our deeper selves some of our current beliefs and feelings will change. We instinctively know that a paradigm shift can be painful and disruptive, but in order to elevate ourselves and grow in a way that improves our lives and relationships, we must do that work.
So when we think about confronting our fears, let’s start with the big one and ask ourselves those hard questions. What is important? What is my purpose? Why do I feel the way I do? Why do I react the way I do? What really matters to me? Am I happy? Am I being honest with myself?
And always remember, you are never alone.