Is Halloween the Only Day for Honesty?

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Today is Halloween and it occurred to me that it is the one day where people honestly present themselves as something that they are not. Take a second to grasp this.  The rest of the year, we present ourselves how we want other people to perceive us. It’s really a costume party all year long with October 31st as the day designated where we can admit we’re in costume.

We style ourselves to speak for us. We dye our hair in ‘progressive’ colors so that it creates a perception. We wear red hats to let people know we are just like they are. We cover our faces at protests so other like-minded citizens can fall-in with us.  We wear goth finery and symbolic jewelry to clue in other occultists… I could go on.

Think of how much time we spend presenting an idea of who we are, all the while avoiding the real work of discovering who that person is for ourselves. In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I repeat over and over how important honesty is in self-transformation.  It’s one of the hardest things we face in life. We know that uncovering and addressing hidden pains and roadblocks is one of the most painful things we can do, thus making it one of the easiest things to avoid.

Now is the time to face your truth. Wipe the make-up off your face, quit looking for your ‘perfect angle’ and understand that the real you is not something that is there for everyone to gawk at. When you discover that inner spark, and many of you know what I’m talking about, you will know that my words are true and that what matters is understaning yourself which will lead to your PURPOSE.

Let’s take this day and commit to honesty and to digging deeper within ourselves to discover what truth really is.

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Where Fear Resides

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I’ve been writing a lot about change as it’s associated with our personal growth and there is much to be said on this subject, but for now I just wanted to drop a quick thought that occurred to me about it.

We’ve all heard about being fearless and taking risks that test our boundaries of comfort. We do things to gain strength and overcome the fear itself. But it occurred to me that the greatest fear that most people have is not something like asking someone out on a date, standing up for ourselves or merging into fast moving traffic. Our greatest fears lie in honestly confronting ourselves.

Confronting ourselves requires a dedication in wanting to make changes that we know deeply effect our thinking, reasoning and emotions. It means understanding ourselves better, it means addressing feelings and issues that may be uncomfortable and unpleasant.

We fear the secrets we keep buried deep down and if we’re honest, we know that by understanding our deeper selves some of our current beliefs and feelings will change. We instinctively know that a paradigm shift can be painful and disruptive, but in order to elevate ourselves and grow in a way that improves our lives and relationships, we must do that work.

So when we think about confronting our fears, let’s start with the big one and ask ourselves those hard questions. What is important? What is my purpose? Why do I feel the way I do? Why do I react the way I do? What really matters to me? Am I happy? Am I being honest with myself?

And always remember, you are never alone.

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