Best Self Help Books For Men

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We all know how difficult it is to get some men to do things like going to the doctor, admitting a mistake or…gasp…read a Self Help book!  I know this is a generalization, but just as women are known to be more intuitive, some men just don’t want to admit or show weakness by browsing the self-help section.  But the truth is that making those first steps at improving ourselves is a great sign of strength and an improvement in itself.

A wonderful list of the ‘Best Self Help Books For Men’ was compiled by self improvement website Upjourney and my choices along with my book, Toxic Rainbows was included on the truly inspired list.

From my review:

Lucio focuses on issues that both deceive and weigh heavily on men, perception and the expectations imposed on them by others.

The book takes on a philosophical and sociological approach steeped in reason in order to grasp, then overcome our self-imposed failings. Men may appreciate the no-exit approach to this self-help book and be eager for the challenge.

The book also gives a welcome opportunity for men to see how their hidden talents have been obscured and offers an opening to pursue their dreams in a fresh and energetic way that leaves little room for negative influence.

Connecting with what the author calls Creative Self Expression, the individual is then in a position to answer hard questions like, “What is my purpose?” and to finally understand how he controls the meaning and rewards offered in his life.

Check out the entire list here.

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Intolerance is Hot Right Now

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There’s a person I know, someone who I’ve admired for years–creative, passionate about life, engaging, fun, a joy.  But then I realized that nearly every moment she shares on social media has been of outrage and venomous hatred. It’s gone so far that she has even called for the death of people she does not agree with.

I’ve made a point of staying away from the mind-controlling echo chamber of thee main culprit of social media conditioning, an entity whose name I won’t mention, but the ferocity and number of people who’ve been effected by the programming seeps through nonetheless.

It’s this reactionary behavior and single-minded focus of what troubles some of us that was an inspiration for writing my book Toxic Rainbows. I found myself asking myself, How can I help? What can I do? How can I reach someone without triggering them or being shouted over? Writing the book was no different than writing a letter to someone in the hopes that you could express all of your thoughts and feelings without getting  interrupted. Now our hope is that the letters we write are read!

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There are factors at work that are creating a much more polarized atmosphere than we would be experiencing if things played out naturally, without influences hammering away at us. Polarity exists, it’s never not been part of the world in which we live. There are things that occur, beliefs that people have and even fashion or styles that is just ‘not you’. But when we give our focus to what it is we don’t want in our lives or what we don’t believe in, we are actually empowering what we push against.

If you hate facial hair, nose rings or red hats, chances are you see those things ALL THE TIME and bring them more into your experience than if you would have just put your attention elsewhere.

But our problems right now lie, a bit outside of our polar differences in belief. It’s in our UNDERSTANDING and how we came to believe what we do.  Our intolerance and inability to reason did not just happen overnight. It has been a long, slow development that has been inflicted upon us.  We need to understand ourselves, not what outside influences tell us about who we are because if we don’t watch out, we will suddenly be telling our friends that we wish they’d die.

If these ideas resonate, I encourage you to read my book, Toxic Rainbows. I also encourage dialogue and questions.

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Is Halloween the Only Day for Honesty?

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Today is Halloween and it occurred to me that it is the one day where people honestly present themselves as something that they are not. Take a second to grasp this.  The rest of the year, we present ourselves how we want other people to perceive us. It’s really a costume party all year long with October 31st as the day designated where we can admit we’re in costume.

We style ourselves to speak for us. We dye our hair in ‘progressive’ colors so that it creates a perception. We wear red hats to let people know we are just like they are. We cover our faces at protests so other like-minded citizens can fall-in with us.  We wear goth finery and symbolic jewelry to clue in other occultists… I could go on.

Think of how much time we spend presenting an idea of who we are, all the while avoiding the real work of discovering who that person is for ourselves. In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I repeat over and over how important honesty is in self-transformation.  It’s one of the hardest things we face in life. We know that uncovering and addressing hidden pains and roadblocks is one of the most painful things we can do, thus making it one of the easiest things to avoid.

Now is the time to face your truth. Wipe the make-up off your face, quit looking for your ‘perfect angle’ and understand that the real you is not something that is there for everyone to gawk at. When you discover that inner spark, and many of you know what I’m talking about, you will know that my words are true and that what matters is understaning yourself which will lead to your PURPOSE.

Let’s take this day and commit to honesty and to digging deeper within ourselves to discover what truth really is.

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Embrace Your Inner Dodo Bird

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I often think about identity, persona and how we see ourselves. In my book Toxic Rainbows, I talk about how I felt early on that I was different, not the fact that I was a minority, but that my thinking was not quite the same as most and I saw that the brilliance in our differences and how standing out from the crowd was not a bad thing. But accepting our uniqueness is sometimes a hard thing to appreciate in a world where people are bullied and shamed for being true to themselves or even ridiculed for their physical differences.

Like most people, I suffered through bouts of insecurity and anxiety, much of which was rooted to my feelings of not having the ‘right’ experiences or background. I learned that pressures imposed by society can make us forget who we are and literally obliterate the love that we should have for ourselves.

We do ourselves a huge disservice when we allow ourselves to become victims to the cruelties of the deeply insecure people out there who try to make us look bad or to feel bad about ourselves.

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Years ago I was asked the oft asked question, “What is your spirit animal?” I responded immediately, ‘The Ostrich”.

The ostrich is awkward and can’t fly, but it runs incredibly fast. It’s legs are powerful and can kick the crap out of the haters. It’s feathers may be useless for flight, but they are beautiful and luxurious. The ostrich stands out on its own as being remarkably unique in the bird family and as an animal in general and like all creatures, it succeeds purely on being itself.

Birds of Envy. If we were to embrace our inner ostrich, dodo bird or platypus, we would be positioning ourselves as strong, untouchable individuals. I don’t mean that you should go out and dye your hair blue, because that doesn’t cut it anymore. I mean..BE YOU. Warts and all, you are meant to shine for what you have going on in your mind and in your heart. There is no one like you and that’s something everyone can be grateful for.

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Toxic Rainbows – Fall 2018 Release

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Toxic Rainbows coming in Fall 2018.

Toxic Rainbows is a book I had no intention of writing, but it came out of necessity.  It wrote itself after a few years of self-reflection and contemplation of how as a society we are to function spiritually in a world where spiritual transformation plateaus with a hollow meme or a proficiency at yoga.

I am a Generation X writer with the perspective of having experienced life pre- and post-internet. The remarkable experience for some of us was watching life unfold as a veil of delusion was constructed around us. We have the capacity for second sight because we can see the realities of two worlds, the truth and a manufactured delusion.

The delusion, often referred to as The Matrix, suffocated, obscured and redefined words and reality as we knew them. An ever creeping and pervasive artificiality and disconnection was my inspiration in seeking answers to life’s most enduring questions which led to my studying works of an esoteric nature, psychology, philosophy and religion.

Toxic Rainbows is based on my experience of growing up outside of a system we are now mired in, entering into it and finally extricating myself from it by understanding how I became a part of the system and how we had become enslaved by it.

Toxic Rainbows is a book about awareness and self discovery that offers revelations and sometimes unpleasant truth that pertains to everyone. It is a manual for escape and a guide for obtainng the joy and freedoms that are missing from so many of our lives. It’s an alternate route to a much better Oz, a place where true enlightenment can be obtained without fear of falling victim to the falseness that surrounds us or the trappings of the faux New Age.

Follow my blog for excerpts and news on the book release. I will also be posting updates to Instagram.

Toxic Rainbows, ebook releasing in Fall 2018.

Jim Lucio

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Tech Devices: Our Self-Imposed Slavery

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Modern day slavery exists and our captors care nothing of our race, gender, social or economic background. They are unmoved and non-biased. This is something I think about quite a bit and it doesn’t seem like one day can go by when I feel the screws tightening.

DSC03574 (1)Today in came in the form of an article about St. Louis University installing surveillance devices, 2,300 of them, into every dorm room for this coming semester. The devices, are of course marketed as ‘assistance’ tools that answer questions about the campus. Just like everything that is bad for us, we accept it because they’re ‘cool’ or we’re programmed into believing we ‘need’ them and they’ll ‘protect’ us. Eventually we don’t even notice they’re there because we never said “No.”.

These devices, naturally, are supplied by Am_zon and are Al_xa-enabled Ec_o Dots.  They claim that ‘no personal data is stored’, but they’ve had problems with these devices storing and using the data for advertising purposes in the past. And didn’t we just recently watch as Mark Zuckerberg purgered himself in front of the Senate’s Commerce and Judiciary committees–or at the very least deny things he was fully aware of?

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I don’t like to bring up these kind of things, but this is what is being put in place to destroy our souls and take us further from understanding our purpose. It atrophies our minds and gives us no reason to think for ourselves. This is the enslavement that so many of us accept as normal or choose to believe that it doesn’t affect us.

Break the chains, disconnect from your devices, unplug, stop the streaming programming…or at least start paying attention to how much you rely on technology to do the thinking for you. Save your temple. Refuse to be the product.

Contact me for a personal, in-depth tarot card reading. Let me help you escape the Matrix and illuminate the soul within.

-Librocio Knows.

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Suicidal Thoughts: Looking At Our Pain With Fresh Eyes

At the beginning of the year I made a prediction that I did not want to come true, but in the intervening months I saw one confirmation after the next that I was not off the mark. I predicted that there would be a major increase in suicides.

My prediction may have been partly intuitive and partly based on an awareness of a general decline in happiness and a compulsion for some to embrace low frequency behaviors and ideology. The combination of low karmic energy and repetitive programming of negativity could not end well, thus my prediction of suicide.

Today I was reminded of an acquaintance who killed himself last year. I thought of all that he had going for him and what he had to offer the world and it got me to thinking again of the many people who feel as if suicide is the answer to seemingly insurmountable problems.

In the past I have suffered from the darkest of depressions and I know the feelings attached to this type of pain.  I also know that what we keep at the forefront of our minds will express itself in our outward reality. Our pain does not have to be there.

I understand that people have different reasons for their thoughts and our experiences are radically different, but I felt compelled to do a reading that might shed some light on why some of us are thinking the way we are and what we can do to elevate ourselves from these thoughts.

If you have any questions about the reading below, please feel free to leave a question in the comment section.  If you are having suicidal thoughts, please contact someone qualified to talk with you more about it.

THE READING:

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While I was shuffling the cards I got the impression that LOVE would be a major factor in why people harm themselves.  The cards did reveal elements of love and they are strongly present, but I was surprised to be shown that the predominant factor for self-harm revolve around the superficial.

There is a feeling associated with living that could be described as ‘half empty’ and leaning toward finding what doesn’t work as opposed to what is already working.

There is a certain amount of comparisons being made in what others have and accomplished and what is desired and unfulfilled in those currently struggling with happiness.

Happiness, success and legitimacy is gauged by the amount of ‘things’ and money one has to show for themselves.  There is almost a complete lack of thought behind these conclusions and emotions are being built up over things that have no shelf life or lasting significance.

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There is an unwillingness to see the importance of mistakes and the work involved in reaching greater heights. Focus lingers on low energy attempts at success that lead to failure and increased focus on the successes of others which lead to feelings of unfairness.

Predominant thoughts surrounding lack permeate the reading.  The feelings of perceived fairness in life and the distribution of love and money appear to be dominant.

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Takeaway:
Don’t be blinded by the glittering prizes of the mundane world that speak only of superficiality. They don’t last.

Embracing the superficial is turning your back on your authenticity, which in turn will not lead to love or happiness. It will attract inauthentic people and temporary friendships.

Difficult, sometimes painful work is necessary to succeed. Without acknowledging your mistakes as steps closer to your desires, you will always remain the Fool.

The Fool is unconcerned, not because he is an actual ‘fool’, but he moves through life willing to learn from the pitfalls he encounters. He approaches life with positivity.  If he doesn’t learn valuable lessons put before him, the second time around he may actually step off the edge of the cliff–willingly or because he just never paid attention.

— Librocio Knows

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