Is Halloween the Only Day for Honesty?

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Today is Halloween and it occurred to me that it is the one day where people honestly present themselves as something that they are not. Take a second to grasp this.  The rest of the year, we present ourselves how we want other people to perceive us. It’s really a costume party all year long with October 31st as the day designated where we can admit we’re in costume.

We style ourselves to speak for us. We dye our hair in ‘progressive’ colors so that it creates a perception. We wear red hats to let people know we are just like they are. We cover our faces at protests so other like-minded citizens can fall-in with us.  We wear goth finery and symbolic jewelry to clue in other occultists… I could go on.

Think of how much time we spend presenting an idea of who we are, all the while avoiding the real work of discovering who that person is for ourselves. In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I repeat over and over how important honesty is in self-transformation.  It’s one of the hardest things we face in life. We know that uncovering and addressing hidden pains and roadblocks is one of the most painful things we can do, thus making it one of the easiest things to avoid.

Now is the time to face your truth. Wipe the make-up off your face, quit looking for your ‘perfect angle’ and understand that the real you is not something that is there for everyone to gawk at. When you discover that inner spark, and many of you know what I’m talking about, you will know that my words are true and that what matters is understaning yourself which will lead to your PURPOSE.

Let’s take this day and commit to honesty and to digging deeper within ourselves to discover what truth really is.

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Embrace Your Inner Dodo Bird

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I often think about identity, persona and how we see ourselves. In my book Toxic Rainbows, I talk about how I felt early on that I was different, not the fact that I was a minority, but that my thinking was not quite the same as most and I saw that the brilliance in our differences and how standing out from the crowd was not a bad thing. But accepting our uniqueness is sometimes a hard thing to appreciate in a world where people are bullied and shamed for being true to themselves or even ridiculed for their physical differences.

Like most people, I suffered through bouts of insecurity and anxiety, much of which was rooted to my feelings of not having the ‘right’ experiences or background. I learned that pressures imposed by society can make us forget who we are and literally obliterate the love that we should have for ourselves.

We do ourselves a huge disservice when we allow ourselves to become victims to the cruelties of the deeply insecure people out there who try to make us look bad or to feel bad about ourselves.

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Years ago I was asked the oft asked question, “What is your spirit animal?” I responded immediately, ‘The Ostrich”.

The ostrich is awkward and can’t fly, but it runs incredibly fast. It’s legs are powerful and can kick the crap out of the haters. It’s feathers may be useless for flight, but they are beautiful and luxurious. The ostrich stands out on its own as being remarkably unique in the bird family and as an animal in general and like all creatures, it succeeds purely on being itself.

Birds of Envy. If we were to embrace our inner ostrich, dodo bird or platypus, we would be positioning ourselves as strong, untouchable individuals. I don’t mean that you should go out and dye your hair blue, because that doesn’t cut it anymore. I mean..BE YOU. Warts and all, you are meant to shine for what you have going on in your mind and in your heart. There is no one like you and that’s something everyone can be grateful for.

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Medication as a Way of Life

I understand that there are a lot of people out there who suffer varying degrees of pain, whether it be in the form of anxiety, depression, or self-esteem. I like to remind people that we need to feel our pain and that medication is not always the thing that will get us through our problems. Yes, in the short term it may cover over the pain, but what happens when the medication wears off? Are we to quickly accept the idea of a lifetime of prescription refills?

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Obviously, our medical options and medicines are essential and they save lives every day, but on the other hand, we are made to feel and experience pain. We are built to overcome. We are made to learn and discover who we are and pain is part of that process.  I won’t even try to comprehend or connect the multitude of dots that correspond with the miseries associated with mixing medication and the side effects and abuses that meds take on the human body. It’s bad–and as miraculous as our bodies are, it can’t fight a battle where our medications are literally tricking it into behaving abnormally, creating feelings of loneliness and even suicide.

I am not a medical doctor and have no authority when it comes to prescription medicines, but I’ve noticed something disturbing when sometimes talking with clients and even friends and that is that I often feel like I’m not actually talking with the person, but with the side effects of medication.

The issue of prescription drug abuse/use and the alarming manner in which they are prescribed is disturbing to me, particularly because everything I write about, all of the exercises and manner in which I try to nudge people into taking charge of their lives is pointless if we are deadened by meds. We simply can’t discover our true selves and our true nature when our emotions and thoughts are clouded over by the effects of being overly medicated.

My suggestion is to get a second opinion and think twice about whether you think you can or cannot overcome a ‘problem’ in your life through medication. Consider holistic approaches, acupuncture, meditation, or even hypnosis. I’m don’t have kids, but I know I would try other options before setting them on a lifelong path of medicating, particularly where meds are presented as the only solution to problems that are common to every day life.

Just today in a grocery store, a voice on the loudspeaker used fear mongering to pressure shoppers into getting TWO ‘Free’ flu shots because it’s the ‘season’ and pneumonia, well…you might get it.  Is it really the ‘season’? If so, why were we pushed to get flu shots all summer long? Is anything ever really ‘free’? The fear, paranoia, and pressure blinds us to how we even really feel.  Stop, listen to yourself. Sometimes you are the real professional when it comes to yourself.

If you’d like to hear more of my thoughts and how to escape the programming and conditioning we live under, my book Toxic Rainbows is available on Amazon.

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