It’s interestng that a ‘new’ study conducted by psychologists at the University of Pennsylvania determined that use of social media sites like (and particularly) Facebook causes …wait for it… depression. No surprise there, but I say this is ‘interesting’ only because studies like this seem to have been coming out for years making these claiims. I didn’t have to resort to another one to know first hand that social media is a big player in producing self doubt and loneliness, all I ever needed to do was get online and see it for myself.
The grasping, the vying for attention, the compulsive posting and commenting all screamed, “Look at me! Look at me!”. It doesn’t take a degree in psychology to understand what is going on and to see that people are suffering and appear more alienated each day.
In my book, Toxic Rainbows, I talk quite about the detrimental effects of social media and it’s influence on our behavior. In my opinion, it is one of the first things many of us need to overcome before we can start making improvements in our lives.
My request to you as that you THINK hard about how you use social media and figure out if it’s providing you with a sense of fulfillment and joy when you log on and/or off. Contemplating your use is only the start and I encourage you to read my book and delve deeper. You owe it to yourself.
This just goes to show that you never know where you might find words of wisdom and powerful things to reflect on that will help your spiritual growth and transformation. It never occurred to me to turn to 80s pop star Limahl of Kajagoogoo to contemplate one of the problems crippling so many people today–prescription drug use.
Prescribing meds to ‘fix’ our problems is a pet peeve of mine, particularly since we have seen them prescribed more frequently and at younger and younger ages. It’s disturbing to think that being on meds has become as normal as taking Vitamin C. It’s become a rite of passage and parents seem not to hesitate in starting their kids on a lifetime of pain and suffering caused by meds that inhibit the body’s natural functions.
They dull our senses, they debilitate our ability to think and reason and every single one of them provide a host of side effects that we didn’t have before we started taking the meds to begin with.
In the song Too Shy, Limahl sings,
Modern medicine falls short of your complaints, try a little harder.
Moving in circles, won’t you dilate. Ooh, Baby try.
In these lyrics Limahl teaches us that we are a bunch of whiney babies and that prescription drugs will never solve our problems. We need to try harder.
He continues by telling us that we are not learning from our problems, only going in circles as if one foot is nailed to the floor. We need to expand our thinking and reach deeper, not obscure our ability to think by the use of meds. Then he says “Ooh, Baby try.” So you know he’s sincere.
Just a bit of levity here, but it’s not that I don’t believe it or think it’s a good message. Thanks, Limahl!
[Disclaimer and urge you to consult a doctor or get a second opinion before you decide to get off your meds or before you start to take them. Give your body a fighting chance, there are enough zombies in this world.]
SOURCE: Samhain, #6.
You might gather by my use of the imagery above that this is not necessarily a fuzzy rainbows and group hug New Age spirituality blog. Like tough love, tough graphics work to get a point across too so time and again I will likely be using some unconventional visuals to accompany my writing.
When I came across this photo from Clive Barker’s Hellraiser it reminded me of why I started doing the work that I’m doing.
When you become more in tune with your true inner being; when awareness shifts and your priorities change, more meaning can be gathered from your every day experiences. Subtlties scream out. You begin to see people a bit differently and sense something about them that maybe they are not even aware of. You start to see the dissatisfaction around you. There is a sense of loss that people exude. They think the emptiness can be filled by jumping on causes, binge watching tv, downloading a new App or getting more ‘likes’ on a post. It’s a never ending battle to find and express meaning in a world where our digital cries for attention are replaced by something else within seconds of our putting them out there.
Besides the hellish digital world in which we live, I have started to feel as if hell really is on earth. From hateful music and horrible television programming that is passed off as entertainment, to the casual sexualizing of children and the constant calls for violence and fear mongering in the news and on late night, it’s enough to make you pause and wonder. How did we become so desensitized to violence and so quick to desregard the thoughts and opinions of others in favor of expressing our displeasure in everything? Is it the meds, programming or simply a distraction from doing what really needs to be done? (And we know what that is.)
When I was a kid in the 80s, a holdover line from the late-70s was ‘Kill the Hippies!’. Back then it was funny, it was a joke that nobody would every actually follow through on, it was punk rock. Now we’ve lost our sense of humor as well as our reasoning.
Let’s rise above the cesspool, find that person deep within and nuture him or her. Give your love and attention to the person that matters most, you. Let’s come to some conclusions and understanding by consulting ourselves. Let’s understand our motives and feelings. Let’s use our reasoning abilities and cognitive skills instead of acting out emotionally. We need to find our purpose and get a better understanding of why we are here in the first place.
Things in the world will never be perfect, but we can at least try to get to a place that feels better within ourselves and it’s not going to happen when we focus on everything else besides what’s going on within–and that’s the work that needs to be done.
SUFFERING. When I was a kid we used to say, “Suffer!” as a way of saying, “Too bad, deal with it.” I thought it was funny back then, but now it’s all too painfully real.
We NEED to experience emotional pain in order to understand what it’s like to be free from it and to overcome it. We do ourselves a disservice when we shield our children from experience and every unpleasantness. We fall deeper into a despair that we can’t begin to fathom when we choose to cover our real and imagined problems with medication, labels or a host of other distractions.
We literally need to suffer through things in order to overcome them. That’s how we get stronger and that’s how we grow. So the next time someone tells you to ‘suffer’ just say, ‘Ok, no problem.’.